By Leow Sue Yu
Good Christian Girl (GCG).
Good Christian Boy (GCB).
What comes to mind?
Do you think of someone in your cell group? Or a church leader?
Recently, more people have been using the terms ‘GCG’ or ‘GCB’. I’ve even heard non-believers use them. They’re often used to describe Christians who are outwardly devoted, don't curse, don't drink, or don’t engage in vices frequently (or at all).
I myself have been called a GCG and have called others GCGs/GCBs. But at the end of last year, I decided that I would stop using this term. I felt that it did more harm than good.
When we call someone a GCG/GCB, we end up casting our judgements onto them, even if it's a subconscious thing. How so? Well, we decide whether their actions and behaviours are good. We end up judging their actions on our own moral scale and decide whether they are acting in a good manner. And if they are, we label them a GCG/GCB.
But, who are we to decide what is good? Since when did we become righteous judges?
Romans 2:1-2 states, “You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgement on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things.”
The Bible is filled with verses about not judging others. We should journey with them and call them out gently whenever necessary, but we should not be casting our own judgements on them.
After all, humans can be pretty awful judges.
Calling someone a GCG/GCB also creates unnecessary pressure. There are two sides to this. One from the perspective of being called a GCG/GCB and the other from the perspective of never having been called that.
Where there is good, there is also bad.
Not many people call me a GCG. There were times when I thought to myself, am I not being a good Christian? If I was not a GCG, I must be a Bad Christian Girl. I started to scrutinise everything I did. I was overly conscious of every single action.
“Is this how a Christian should act?”
“Can I do this?”
“Is this good enough?”
Those thoughts often flooded my mind. There was even a point where I had imposter syndrome. I felt like a fake Christian. I didn’t dare to say that I was a Christian anymore in fear that people would look at my actions and decide that I was not a good Christian, and that I was actually bad.
I ended up trying to be a Christian that met other people’s standard of good. While doing so, I was not looking to God and Christ as to how I should think or behave.
The irony was that, even when people called me a GCG, I felt equally pressured. I examined my own actions and wondered which part of me was ‘worthy’ enough to be deemed as good. I was terrified of making mistakes, in fear that people would stop thinking that I was good. It was then that I realised that calling someone a GCG or GCB prevents them space and comfort to make mistakes. They may fear making mistakes because they may no longer be termed as “good”. They might start thinking that growing and being any different than how they are acting now does not reflect Christ.
At the end of the day, the main reason I stopped using GCG and GCB was that the basis of it was too… human. We start trying to fit worldly standards of what a Christian looks like than biblical standards of what it means to actually follow Christ.
As Christians, we are ambassadors of Christ. So at the centre of what we do must be Christ. Not trying to fit into cookie-cutter standards of what the world thinks Christians should look like.
It may be difficult to escape from the clutches of caring about what other people think of you, but it is slightly easier knowing that God loves you for who you are. He will always love you.
With that, I hope this article inspired you to reflect. We would love to hear your thoughts or experiences about this. DM us at @TheProjectJSG!