The desire to have closure in any given situation is just human nature. We like to have things done in a full cycle, and we often want explanations for things that we don't understand. But sometimes, things don't go our way and we won't be able to get the closure we hoped for. So how do we forgive without closure?
Read on for 3 points that we have learnt about forgiveness.
1. Forgiveness is a process.
There may be different levels on which that you have to let go of, it may take months or years. Forgiveness is a process and it requires time. Emotions will re-surface, and certain situations will trigger the pain. Allow your heart the grace of time to catch up to your head, and give God the time to work His healing in your soul.
2. Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation.
Let go of that expectation of hoping that the other party would want to make things right with you. Look to God instead – forgiveness is a transaction between you and God. Trust that God will always be with you, and He will always have your back.
3. Forgiveness is not forgetting.
Forgiveness is letting go of the things that have happened to you, not completely forget about them. A part of you may still hurt, and that's perfectly fine. It takes time. Work with God and let Him guide you through this journey of pain.